Trust is known to be the most important element in a successful relationship. When a couple trusts each other in the relationship, a deep bond of love and respect develops. Many people in relationships find themselves sharing common interests with their partners as well as passion, love and chemistry, however, most of these same people lack trust for one reason or another. A relationship that lacks trust is guaranteed to fail everytime.

Here are six important steps you can follow to build a strong trusting relationship:

 

• Step 1: Consistency: This is very important in a relationship. You need know how consistent you are in your relationship. Analyze carefully whether or not you can count on each other. When you are reliable on a daily basis, you will be successful in building a relationship that's based on trust.
  
• Step 2: Communication skills: Are you capable of delivering your messages to your partner well? Analyze whether your words match your facial expressions. Your body language should also go in sync with what you say. Disagreements in a relationship tend to corrupt it. These occur due to misunderstanding you need to pay special focus to what you say and how you look when with your partner.
  
• Step 3: Believing in your partner and yourself: The key to build trust in a relationship is to start believing in yourself and your partner. You must indulge in an honest and gentle discussion with your partner about any problems, insecurities and misunderstandings. Do not live with fear, resentment and silence. Try finding out your partner' strengths and shower honest compliments. When your partner does something for you, it is important to indulge in a loving conversation that involves your genuine appreciation for partner.
  
•  Step 4: Complete honesty: This is extremely important in a relationship. This is what makes it successful. For this you need to learn and practice how to remain truthful to your partner. Keeping secretes is a strict no-no. If you do, you cannot develop trust in your relationship. In fact secrecy of any kind or degree can destroy the relationship fully. Secrets mean you require maintaining them and there is no way to maintain secrets than telling lies. These rules out the possibility of building trust on a relationship.
  
• Step 5: Learn to say no: Human nature is set in away to please others. However, this can result in spoilt relationships sometimes especially if you are giving importance to someone else's needs above yours. Saying 'yes' when you actually mean 'no' can spoil the relationship. Learn to say no when you actually want to. This will also win you a lot of respect from your partner.
  
•  Step 6: Improve: Anything that is alive and kicking needs to grow and change make sure when you change, you change for better.
  
  

Love, passion and chemistry are all important in order to have a healthy relationship, however none of these mean anything if your relationship lacks trust. By following all the steps mentioned above, you are guaranteed to build a trusting relationship that will last a life time.

 

Lovey-dovey language - even your own - can be so corny it makes you want to puke. But researchers have found that it might actually serve a purpose: Cute nicknames and code words pave the way to a playful, resilient, and satisfying relationship with your significant other. One study on couples' "insider language" published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships reported that the more goofy nicknames, made-up terms, and covert requests for nooky a couple used, the higher their relationship satisfaction tended to be.

The quantity of sweet or silly nothings you utter on any given day may be even more important than the quality, says Jamie Turndorf, Ph.D., a New York City relationship therapist. Studies have found that couples who maintain a five-to-one ratio of positive to negative communications are far more likely to remain happy. "Using nicknames and made-up language is an easy way to inject positive communication into everyday life," Turndorf says. In fact, it's probably the single easiest thing you can do to keep your romance  going strong.

Whether it's baby talk or coded conversation ("It's getting chilly." Translation: "Let's leave now."), the overall message is: The two of you are tight. "You are saying, symbolically, that you care enough about the other person and the relationship to develop your own way of speaking," says Carol Bruess, Ph.D., the director of family studies at the University of St. Thomas in St. Paul, Minnesota, and a co-author of Belly Button Fuzz and Bare-Chested Hugs: What Happy Couples Do. "You've got your own private world, your own mini culture."

The Meaning Behind a Moniker

Pet names also create a boundary, says Pat Love, co-author of How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It. "It's a way to identify the relationship as exclusive," she says. "It's like an auditory marker." When people around you overhear your cutesy conversation, they sense that you're bonding together and they know you're committed to each other.

The inside banter can also serve as a fast-forward button, says Lillian Glass, Ph.D., a communication and body-language expert based in Los Angeles. Sometimes, after a rough day at work, you just want to come home, flop onto the couch, and pop open a bottle of something smooth and red. How great is it when your partner knows that "the usual" is code for "My imbecile boss just wasted six hours of my life with mindless busy work and I'm really in a mood right now"? Statement, sentiment, and your current mental state all rolled into two words - no need to relive the whole disastrous day blow by blow.

Personalized lingo not only can bond a relationship - it can bail it out, too. University of Western Ontario psychology professor Lorne Campbell, Ph.D., has researched the use of humor during conflicts. In a study published in the journal Personal Relationships, Campbell found that when goofing around is used to help resolve disputes, it ultimately strengthens the relationship. Tossing in an inside joke during a would-be brawl not only relieves the tension, he says, but brings you back to the present.

Cementing Memories

It's no coincidence that new couples give each other nicknames that are sugary and food-related. Cupcake. Honeybun. Peaches. "Sweet is an unequivocally positive descriptor," Glass says. "You're comparing the other person with a treat - something special that you look forward to every time." As a relationship matures and trust builds, you may develop pet names that refer to a feature or personality trait of your partner (like calling your boyfriend Leo when his beard grows shaggy and out of control). That kind of "just between us" language drives home how well you know each other.

Every shared experience, Glass says, opens doors for more nicknames and inside jokes, which become earmarks for your most meaningful memories. Whether he calls you Rodeo, after the horseback-riding trip you took on your first anniversary, or you call him Speed Racer, for the time he drove 90 mph to get you to the airport on time, the names are a way of tracking your romantic history. "You have a word that signifies a time, a date, and a place, and it takes you back to that moment," Glass says.

Of course, for a nickname to work, both parties have to be happy with it. If it annoys you when your man calls you Stinky in memory of your bad bout with Indian food last fall, that's definitely not going to bring you any closer. "You're putting your trust in the other person to treat you in a safe and intimate way," Glass says. "Tread carefully."

The One Must-Say Phrase

What if you and your man would rather cut your tongues out than utter a ridiculous nickname? Don't worry; you're not doomed. Worse, Turndorf says, is a relationship in which "I love you" is hardly ever said. Still, she encourages couples to come up with as many catchphrases as they can stand. They don't have to be gooey and sweet-funny is fine. But one big red flag to watch for is if your partner stops calling you by your pet name, Love says. "It's like calling a naughty kid by his full name. It sends the signal 'I'm not being intimate with you anymore.'" When that happens, it's time to figure out what in your relationship needs fixing.

Bottom line: Having a shared language can only help strengthen the connection you feel with your partner. So swallow your pride and bring on the shmoopy.

 

 

We are sharing our lives, money, homes with our partners but offen it's hard for many couples to share email passwords. Where does it come from? What are we afraid of? Is it normal rules of human privacy or a proof that we are having something to hide?

Whether or not privacy should exist in relationship can only be answered when the couple sets boundaries, revises those boundaries after time, clearly communicate, and respect each other. Ultimately, both people need to stay sane for the relationship to work. Check out the most common scenarios where privacy often comes up as an issue and when the want for privacy should be red flagged. Having a separate bank account and not giving password to it it' s ok, but if you never knew the account existed, or the person refuses to start a joint account you have to be careful.

So, hopefully, you'll get to know each other to the point where you can have this type of trust. Privacy just isn't always everything it's cracked up to be.

What do you think about it? Are you sharing all your details with your partner or you keeping some parts of your life only for you?

 

Every couple (or future couple) has a problem where to go for a date in the winter. The day is short, and very cold but even in this conditions you can have a great time with your partner.

Here are our few propositions:

1. Make a snowman or something from the snow:)
You don't have to build it to any particular specifications because this is YOUR snow whatever-it-is, and no one else has any business telling you how to masterfully sculpt it. Whether you decide to create the world's smallest snowman, a nondescript pile of fluffiness, an igloo, something more or less phallic in nature, or a life-sized replication of Westminster Abbey, it's up to you. Just have fun! (And make sure you live somewhere particularly snowy - the steppes of Russia come to mind - if you're going to try that last one).

2. Do some people-watching
This one is pretty easy to do. All you need is a well-populated area - indoors or out - and an imagination. Plop yourself down somewhere and let the games begin! Make up stories about what you think their life is like, or try to guess what they will do before they do it. Making fun of any oddballs you see isn't entirely out of the question either... just be sure to do so discreetly.

3. Have a movie night
Pick up a few movies you both will enjoy, prepare a couple packages of party mix/popcorn, etc. and you're set. Make sure you snuggle; the whole "watching a movie" experience is always better when snuggling is involved.

4. Go ice sliding
You don't have to have ice skates to have fun on the ice! Remember how you used to run and slide across the linoleum floor in the kitchen? It's basically the same thing. Just make sure you are positive that the ice is plenty thick enough to support your weight, and go have fun! If you do have ice skates, skating regularly like civilized people is also a fun and romantic thing to do.

5. Cook dinner together
It sounds cliche, I know. But have you ever given it a shot? Cooking at home is much more affordable than going out to eat, and it's also a lot more personal.

And of course you can always do common things like going to the cinema, restaurant, theatre or simply stay in bed for a whole day :)

 

Keeping a relationship alive across the miles is no easy task. Here are eight strategies that can help you thrive in a long-distance relationship.

1. Define the parameters - together.

Sit down together and map out this new long-distance arrangement. For each of you, what are your concerns? How often will you visit? What about the kids? Are there domestic issues (household upkeep, car, finances, etc.) that may require a new plan? What about relationship worries, such as intimacy, jealousy and trust? Get everything out into the open from the get-go so you can both begin this new adventure on the same footing.

2. See its benefits and look at the upside.

One or both of you may feel distressed about this unwelcome separation. One way to transform your negative outlook is to "reframe" the situation. That is, try to view the long-distance relationship in a positive light. How might living apart for a finite amount of time be beneficial? For example, you'll have more time to do your own thing. You won't take each other for granted. Your reunions will be sexy and exciting. It's a vertical career move. And so on. See if you can each come up with at least three benefits.

3. Make a future plan.

Ask your partner: Where do you see us in one year? How about five years? Talk about what each of you can do, in the context of living apart, that will make this future vision come true. Having shared goals is one of the keys to a happy relationship, and doing this activity subtly reminds each of you that you're working as a team. Living in separate homes does not mean you have to lead separate lives and have separate futures.

4. Establish frequent and regular contact.

Set up regular phone or Skype dates. Communicate every day, more than once, if possible. It's critically important, when two people are unable to have physical intimacy, to maintain an emotional bond. Even if your partner isn't really a "talker," find ways to stay in touch. If she hates being on the phone, then email, text or instant message each other. Share your little triumphs and tragedies, or just something funny that happened during the day. Ask about each other's day. Get to know what a "day in the life" of your partner looks like.

5. Schedule face time.

Talking, video chatting and writing are all great. But to maintain a romantic relationship, you need to make the time to see each other face-to-face. Together, go over your work, family and other obligations and then schedule times when you'll visit. It's also important for the stay-at-home partner to visit the relocated one so that he or she has more than a verbal description of the partner's other home, city and favorite haunts.

6. Don't keep secrets.

Transparency and inclusion are the two most important defenses against jealously, suspicion, and paranoia. Tell your partner about the people in your life. Don't omit events or interactions simply because they might inspire a twinge of jealousy. It's natural that each of you will experience loneliness from time to time. But you can keep yourself from acting on it -and keep your partner from worrying that you will - by disclosing your feelings and giving lots of details about your life.

7. Be there for each other.

It's so very important for each of you to feel that the other one is there in the event of a family tragedy, a family celebration, or a personal crisis. Show her you care by flying home for her oral surgery, even though she says it's no big deal. Turn his cousin's wedding into an opportunity to relax together, even though he wasn't thinking he'd attend. Supporting each other through all those high and low points in life is reassuring to partners and strengthening for the relationship.

8. Keep reinventing the romance.

This is my favorite strategy, because it's the one that's the most fun and rewarding. Surprise your partner with a love letter or a gift. Send him a spontaneous email letting him know he's the sexiest man alive, or telling her you love her more now than the day you met her. Find creative - and frequent - ways to keep things spicy between you. Keep each other smiling!

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We have all been there. We have all had to do it. Occasionally, a relationship just falls apart in a bad way. When that happens, you just wish you could walk away and leave it at that. Yet, you feel compelled to let the other person know that it is over instead of making them wait around in torturous silence until they figure it out months down the road without contact from you. The problem comes along though when you feel compelled to let the other person know of the break up but not compelled enough to use one of the acceptable, tried and true methods such as a quiet one on one talk or even a long telephone conversation. What are the worst ways to break up with someone?

 

E-mail.

Electronic mail or 'e-mail' is one of the greatest tools given to us by the Internet. Sending letters, pictures, and other documents whizzing through cyberspace to be received by someone half the world away in a matter of minutes is an amazing way to keep in touch with worldwide acquaintances and support the spread and transfer of information. Some people want to abuse this awesome power though by using its rapidness and its anonymity to sever ties with a lover as painlessly as possible. However, it ends up being just the opposite of painful for the person receiving the e-mail.

Example? Apparently the professional hockey player Jarret Stoll who plays for the L.A. Kings decided the best way to cancel his wedding to model/actress Rachel Hunter was with a mass e-mail. Less than two months before the wedding he e-mailed her and every person on their guest list to call the wedding off.

Facebook

The changing of relationship status on social networking sites like Facebook and Myspace is an important step in one's relationship life. Changing one's relationship status to 'in a relationship' is a large step as it allows every one of your friends to know you are currently taken. This is particularly key on Facebook as you generally have to send an invitation to the person with whom you are dating for approval so that their name is posted beside yours. The changing of your status back to single though is another big step after a break up. A way that people take the changing of one's relationship status back to single to a whole new level is doing it BEFORE he or she has spoken to their significant other about breaking up, thereby making Facebook the bearer of bad news.

 

A Public Place

 

While it may seem nice to take the other person out for a final nice dinner or an expensive drink, breaking up with someone in public can be seen as a very bad move. It is easy to think that the public venue will make the break-ee calmer and reserved - meaning they will not shout at you and quietly finish their dinner or drink before letting you know that they 'understand' then give you a gentle hug and goodbye. WRONG! More often than not the person, no matter how sweet and reserved they are normally, will most certainly cause a scene and all the people sitting next to your table will know of your pathetic breakup attempt and consider you to be a jerk. Having a very long, awkward wait for the check might well be the least of your problems if you choose this breakup method.

Post-It Note

 

The idea of putting your feelings about breaking up with someone in writing has its merits. You are able to put down your true feelings and explain everything in detail without distractions of someone butting in or forgetting things. However, breaking up with someone through a piece of paper really is not that fair to them. You don't allow them their opportunity to express their own feelings and anger at the end of the relationship. They are as justified in their own feelings as you are. Since you cared enough about their feelings to start dating them, you might as well give them a few moments to rant and wail at you when you break up with them. There is an infamous Sex and the City episode when Carrie, played by Sarah Jessica Parker, gets the boot courtesy of a Post-It note from her boyfriend of several weeks named Berger. Not even having a long explanation on a full size of paper is even worse than this impersonal way of breaking up.

Don't Murder the Messenger

Messengers for relationship news were the way of the playground. If a girl liked a boy and wanted to 'go out' with him, her friend would ask for her and vice versa. Once it was time to break up, the same method could be employed to the point where young grade school couples rarely actually talked to each other at all. However, the problem comes about when adults try to employ this childish break up method. The breaker assumes that the painful act will be easier if the breakee is approached by a friend. This method allows the breaker to avoid the shouting and the yelling as well as the fighting by having the personal touch of an actual individual tell the breakee without having to be the exact one to do it. Referring to Sex and the City again, Miranda (Cynthia Nixon) tells about how she was broken up by means of a guy's doorman as he explained the man was not coming downstairs ever. In the movie starring Catherine Zeta Jones and Julia Roberts called America's Sweethearts, the character played by Catherine Zeta Jones made her sister played by Julia Roberts break up with all of her boyfriends to the point Julia's high school yearbook quote was 'Hey, we have to talk.'

Through Text Message.

 

Imagine yourself receiving a text message from your partner telling you that he/she wants to break up with you. How does it feel? Isn't it outright humiliating? A dumpee who gets dumped via sms will definitely get hurt and feel like he/she was betrayed and disrespected.

More so, the person is left with a lot of unanswered questions resulting in a feeling of resentment toward his/her partner. The situation will be left hanging and the relationship will have no closure.

Despite the pain, a break up sms could be advantageous for a dumpee in the sense that the person will realize that what he/she thought was real was actually fake. There was no real relationship at all because of the fact that his/her partner does not even have the decency and courage to tell him/her personally about the break up.

For some dumpees, it is more difficult to move on from the break up because they have no idea what the heck went wrong in the relationship and they tend to dwell on the bad experience and lose their self-esteem. On the other hand, some people find receiving a break sms as an eye-opener and are even thankful to have found out that they were dating a loser. They're just glad that things are over.

And what do you think? What is the worst way to break up ?

Here is a look at some choice phrase from Irish women to help you decode the true meaning of their mutterings. Most of these words ring true to the average female, but for a few we have offered an Irish twist. If you want to keep that special Irish lady happy, consult these explanations.

1. Fine:
This is the word used by women at the end of an argument, when they are normally in the right. ‘Fine’ signals that the argument is over. I wouldn’t try to follow it up.

2. Five Minutes:
Of course when any woman tells you five minutes, this usually means at least half an hour, especially when she’s getting dressed. I know one husband who likes to sit in the car waiting and calls the house phone in an attempt to hurry his wife up, but it never works!

3. Nothing:
Of course when an Irish woman says “nothing" when asked what is wrong, it’s far from nothing she means. Arguments that begin with "nothing" usually end in "fine." I know it’s tempting to probe when the word is uttered but better to keep your mouth shut and avoid the possible annoyance.

4. Go Ahead :
You want to cancel our dinner plans, so you can go out for a drink with the lads? “Go ahead." It’s a dare, not an approval. Don’t cross that bold Irish woman.

5. Loud Sigh :
An Irish woman loves a good sigh, there is nothing like it. Of course this isn’t a word, but it can be much more significant. A loud sigh signifies the woman is contemplating what on earth she is doing wasting her time arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to 3 for meaning of nothing)

6. That's Okay:
Of course this is a dangerous statement, is it really "Okay?" Normally not. Dependant on the tone this choice phrase is delivered in, it normally means you will need to do some damage control in the not-so-distant future.

7. Thanks:
Normally this can just mean that a woman is simply thanking you. However if she utters “thanks a lot,” this can mean pure sarcasm. On this occasion, don’t respond with "welcome," as this could result in a “whatever.”

8. Whatever:
Just walk away! She’s pissed off and this could easily escalate into a burly row. Better to just cut your losses.

9. Don't worry about it, I got it:
Usually delivered after a woman has asked a man several times to do something and no action has been taken. Taking the bull by the horns, the Irish woman will get the job done herself.

10. Grand:
This is a notice of approval. Generally it means she’s in agreement with you. You should welcome this turn of phrase, the lady is content.

I am not very good at expressing myself in writing and I've been struggling to think up good stuff to write in my first messages to women on the site. I sent a few contact requests but then I just couldn't think of anything to write that doesn't sound just silly or pointless. Is there a trick to it? (Peter, 41)

There is no trick to writing a good first message to someone. Sometimes, just saying hi and that you liked someone's profile is enough.

Before sending messages, you should make sure your profile tells women enough about you so that they can tell whether or not they are interested. Writing about yourself is not easy, but Anotherfriend.com does give you plenty of handy boxes to fill, so you don't need to think too hard about what sort of things to include. If your profile is detailed, you wont need to try too hard with your first message. The woman will look at your profile and, if she wants to know more about you, will keep the conversation going.

If you want to make your first message to someone more relevant, take a good look at her profile and think about what it was that made you want to contact her. Maybe it was your high compatibility rating, or the fact that she's visited a country you've spent a lot of time in. Maybe you even share a hobby or an interest. Any of these things could be a conversation starter. You could mention it in your message and ask her some questions about it. One or two will suffice. It's generally best to keep the first message pretty short. After a few more messages, you could mention the fact that you don't like communicating online very much and see if you can speak on the phone instead. You could even suggest meeting up, if you both feel ready.

 

 

Good Luck and Happy Dating!

Choosing the right photos for your online dating profile can be a real chore, but not with our support :)

Below are five of the most common mistakes people make when choosing online dating profile pictures. Are you guilty of any of these?

• Group shots
  

You want to make life as easy as possible for people looking at your profile, so keep things simple and only have pictures of yourself. Specific photos to avoid are ones of you with your ex, ones featuring attractive friends of the same sex or photos of you with children or pets. Photos where the other person has been blatantly cut out are also to be avoided at all cost. They just look wrong.

• Hidden face shots
  

The whole point of putting up a picture on a dating site is to show people what you look like. Pictures where youre half hidden behind something may be artistic and flattering, but in the online dating world they are annoying and even slightly suspicious what is this person hiding? Photos that show you wearing sunglasses, big hats or other coverings that prevent your face from being seen fall under this category.

• Silly face shots
  

You may well want to show your fun and playful side to potential partners, but remember that your main objective is to look appealing (this is true for both men and women!). Funny expressions or photos where you are blatantly drunk are in no way attractive and they can and will cost you some dates.

• Posed makeover shots
  

Having a good photo in your profile is important and if you have to pay someone to take that photo, then its far preferable than having a bad webcam shot on there. On the other hand, posing or looking blatantly overly made up can make people think youre A. desperate or B. unattractive and in need of help to look good. Opt instead for casual and natural looking photos no special lighting, makeup, backgrounds or poses.

• Sexy shots
  

If youre serious about finding love (and not just sex), youll want to keep the seductive shots out of your profile. Apart from sometimes having the opposite effect, they also send the wrong message about what you want. Both men and women are often guilty of trying too hard to show off their bodies. Obviously, on respectable dating sites, nudity is not allowed. But even the subtler six-pack shots, leaning-into-the-camera cleavage shots or booty shots are likely to do more harm than good.

 

My today's article was inspired by one of the episodes of 'Let's talk about love' by Niecy Nash.

She lists the 5 biggest mistakes ladies make in modern dating. At first I thought it's gonna be another complicated tactic that we have to implement while going out 'hunting' but I was wrong.

We've discussed it with my girl friends and all of us agreed on the following that we just can't control:

#5- Walk in the truth, a lot of us are simply affraid to talk about our needs, believes, or what are our future plans and if the partner is included in them but maybe he/she doesn't know about that and we leave it that way?

#4-Date a man who wants the same thing you want, at the begining we need to make a little research. Ask random questions about the idea of having kids, marriage etc. It's just an example every lady knows what is her main field of interest, BUT if every answer to your questions is totally different than what you think, that grab you bag and leave before both of you will make a mess in each other's lives as no one would want to compromise.

#3-Date for your priority not your preference, we can't help looking for a dark hair George Clooney type, cause it's all about looks, but sometimes we need to go deeper than that, maybe the blonde guy has a lot more to offer in the romance,huh?

#2-Stop the drama, if we wan't it or not, we are drama queens and 99% of guys who are not long-term husbands are affraid of the dramas and tears, so we simply need to start controling that part.

#1-Be what you want to see, if you want your partner to support your hobbies and interests than support his hobbies and interests. Buy tickets for a sports event or order a football game on the cable TV. If you wanna go out with the girls, let him have a guys night out. It all needs to be equal to make a harmony.

These are my today's thought, simple,short but I think worth considering.

 

We should start with the fact that the current unemployment rate is over 12%, which means that if you already have a job you respect it and do whatever you can to maintain it.

I've been inspired to start this topic by one of my friends, she told me about her relationship were she is the one actually working and her boyfriend is constantly on the couch watching MTV. Everyday the daily news feeds us with the info regarding financial crisis and it should be a motivation for us to go out there and do our best not be left out. Therefore we you're a working professional and come home after 12 hours of working and find a 29 years old male on the couch as you left him in the morning you have all the rights to be annoyed! I'm not saying that this problems touches only the ladies, I'm sure guys can experience the same but I just wanted to show the sense of this whole situation.

You gain experience, meet new people and have a totaly different view on certain things. You hear from your friends about the new apratments or houses they are willing to buy splitting the mortgage between her and her partner and you get even more confused.

In the current economic climate we my say that being unemployed equals- assistance and financial support, but what if you don't actually need the assistance, you just want to sit around because it's easier than work or run from one interview to another.

If you don't see your partner doing the best he/she can to find a job and improve your household budget that the love crisis begins and is increasing every day. Your daily routines are different, you have the right to be tired, you don't have common topics, you simply don't have the support as the other person does not understand.

I only wish to highlight that we are analyzing the situation in which the person does not want to find job, which means finding the easiest way to survive.

I'm not sure how to sum this situation up but I just have the feeling that the relationship may not survive if both of the sides do not face the same day to day problems.

The key to more romance may lie closer than you think-in the food you eat every day.

By defition, an aphrodisiac is a substance that increases sexual desire. Aphrodisiacs are named after Aphrodite, the ancient Greek goddess of sexual love and beauty. Aphrodisiacs have a powerful impact on the mind as they are thought to trigger the release of chemicals in the brain which then stimulate certain organs. If you are cooking something at home, make sure some of these selections below are on the list.

Avocado

The avocado tree was called a "testicle tree" by the Aztecs because its fruit hangs in pairs on the tree, resembling the male testicles. Its aphrodisiac value is based on this resemblance.

Basil

For centuries, people said that basil stimulated the sex drive and boosted fertility as well as producing a general sense of well being. The scent of basil was said to drive men wild -- so much so that women would dust their breasts with dried and powdered basil. Basil is one of the many reported aphrodisiacs that may have the property of promoting circulation.

Bananas

In addition to the phallic shape of the banana itself, the banana flower also has a phallic shape. Bananas are rich in potassium and B vitamins, which are said to be necessary for sex-hormone production.

Cardamom

Cardamom is an aromatic spice. Certain cultures deem it a powerful aphrodisiac and also claim it is beneficial in treating impotence. It is high in cineole, which can increase blood flow in areas where it is applied.

Chocolate

Chocolate has forever been associated with love and romance. It was originally found in the South American rainforests. The Mayan civilizations worshipped the Cacao tree and called it "food of the gods." Rumour has it that the Aztec ruler Montezuma drank 50 goblets of chocolate each day to enhance his sexual abilities.

Researchers have studied chocolate and found it to contain phenylethylamine and serotonin, which are both "feel good" chemicals. They occur naturally in our bodies and are released by our brains when we are happy or feeling loving or passionate. It produces a euphoric feeling, like when you're in love.

Chili peppers

Eating chili peppers generates physiological responses in our bodies (e.g., sweating, increased heart rate and circulation) that are similar to those experienced when having sex. The capsaicin they contain is responsible for the effects and is also a good pain reliever.

Honey

In medieval times, people drank mead, a fermented drink made from honey, to promote sexual desire. In ancient Persia, couples drank mead every day for a month (known as the "honey month" -- a.k.a. "honeymoon") after they married in order to get in the right frame of mind for a successful marriage. Honey is rich in B vitamins (needed for testosterone production) as well as boron (helps the body metabolize and use estrogen). Some studies have suggested that it may also enhance blood levels of testosterone.

Garlic

Long ago, Tibetan monks were not allowed to enter the monastery if they had been eating garlic because of its reputation for stirring up passions. Garlic increases circulation.

Nutmeg

In ancient China, women prized nutmeg an aphrodisiac, and researchers have found it to increase mating behaviours in mice. There is no evidence to prove the same happens in humans. In quantity, nutmeg can produce a hallucinogenic effect.

Ginger

People have deemed ginger root an aphrodisiac for centuries because of its scent and because it stimulates the circulatory system.

Papaya

Papaya (like aniseed) is estrogenic, meaning it has compounds that act as the female hormone estrogen. It has been used as a folk remedy in promoting menstruation and milk production, facilitating childbirth and increasing the female libido.

Oysters

Oysters have long been thought to have aphrodisiac properties, but very few studies have been conducted on the matter.

One thing that brings credibility to the oyster myth is the fact that these slippery critters are full of zinc. Zinc controls progesterone levels, which have a positive effect on the libido. Zinc deficiency can cause impotence in men, so any food rich in zinc is considered an aphrodisiac in that respect, and oysters happen to be loaded with the mineral.

The next time you are cooking, you may want to take a closer look at some of the ingredients you are using. You never know when you are going to unknowingly bump into something that may set you and the others eating your cooking in the mood.

Does Mr. Right exist? Is he out there somewhere? Will I find him?

Mr. Right is a key subject for many women and an inspiration of hope on a daily basis. Yes, probably exists Yes, he is probably your match. Yes, you WILL find him! Of course in all our lives we have goals, aims, ambitions and desires small and large. It is these landmarks and goalposts that keep us positive and busy. It is what makes us human. In recent years the terms Mr. Right and Miss Right have become over used and clichéd. It is almost as if we have a chart on our wall, an extensive check list or a resume of specifics that the person in question must submit to get his foot through the door of the "potentials" interview.

Most of us would deny we are pushing away Mr. Right as we hope that chance will take a hand in bringing Mr. Right to us. Many of us accept that we have a small but insignificant "list" and yes, we accept that there are some requirements on it which are nonnegotiable, but they are fairly minor. Or are they? The fact of the matter is that as the decades have passed by, we have become far more sophisticated, as humans, as individuals, as lovers and mates. We are adults, we have a good salary and a nice home and are well educated in the ways of the world. Therefore it is only fair that we seek someone to match, to fit in, to adapt, to accompany, to facilitate, right? Therein lays the issue.

The fact is that Mr. Right also has a check list, of his wishes and needs, only a small one of course, but a list all the same, and he is ticking off your assets as we speak. He wants someone young, someone well educated, someone good looking and in shape. We are indignant, how shallow we cry. Typical man we sigh. Yet are we any better? Look at your list and look very carefully at what or who constitutes your Mr. Right. And then look again. Are you sure first of all that your tick list is achievable? Yes, or are you willing to negotiate? Okay so you are happy with your list. Then what?

Are you willing to go out and get your Mr. Right or are you waiting for him to come to you? Many women tell me they are waiting for Mr. Right. The word "waiting" concerns me. By waiting it means men come to you by chance, perhaps by design and you tick off their assets, your check them out and then cast off anyone who doesn't match your list. Maybe you do, but remember this my friends, Mr. Right is looking for his Miss Right? How much work have you put into being Miss Right or should he accept you as you are and fit in around you? If he did slot in to your life would he really be Mr. Right or an accouterment, an asset, a trinket that you would get bored of?

The thing I am asked by eligible men more than anything these days is, "where have all the nice girls gone". Think about those words carefully. These men are not asking where the doormats went, the meek mice, the housewife slaves. Not at all. No what they are asking is where all the women went who don't have a huge checklist as long as their arms. Most men simply want someone to love, someone who they can dote on in their own ways and who they can feel special and share with. The problem for them is that they are not finding it because they are constantly under the pressure of women’s check lists. They are told they must adapt and fit in, they are trying to fulfill their part of the list bargain and then they are faced with the Miss Rights out there.

As a potential Miss Right you owe it to yourself to complete a few tasks. Take a long, hard look at your list and ask yourself exactly how flexible you are being. Secondly look at who your Mr. Right is and how truthfully obtainable they are. Thirdly, don't kid yourself about your own potentials but don't compromise on ideals either. Fourthly, bring yourself out into the open and go after your Mr. Right.

Don't play the waiting game because you do not want to spend the rest of your life knowing your Mr. Perfect is married to someone else when he could have been yours. And finally, compromise is the key in reality, for all the things Mr. Right must be, try and balance that with attempting to be something your Mr. Right doesn't want to miss.