Hey everyone, this week I want to give you all a drilling in the basics of having a good attitude. It's appealing, attractive, and surprisingly rare in the world of dating!

When it comes to dating, attitude plays a very important part in your communication process. If you want to come across as a relaxed, confident and happy person, it’s good to make sure you have an attitude that matches the image that you want to create.

Relationships and friendships are, basically, built upon a series of conversations — these build over time to form deeper, better communications and connections between people. If you want to form a meaningful relationship, it's important to check that your attitude is a positive and respectful one while these conversations are taking place.

In the past, many clients that I have worked with have been hurt in previous relationships. Unfortunately, they then take out their frustrations on other potential partners in an attempt to avoid future emotional pain. This, in turn, can cause a chain reaction that turns their dating lives into endless strings of dissatisfaction! Something to be avoided at all costs, I think.

So how can you change this attitude problem?

Well, firstly, you need to recognise what you are thinking when going out on a date. Are you seeing positive images in your head or negative ones before you head out the door? If it's the latter, then stop! Start imagining the date taking place and going well instead. Picture yourself going out and really enjoying yourself, not feeling uptight or frustrated about anything, and just wanting to have a laugh. Your thoughts have a huge influence on your feelings and attitudes, so make sure yours are good ones.

Secondly, when you talk about going out on a date to friends and family, are the words you use positive or are they negative? If negative, then start talking in a more positive way. Focus on things like “Yes, I'm going on a date, and who knows what might happen. I'm really looking forward to it!” Even if you feel a bit silly saying them to other people, be sure to say them to yourself.

Thirdly, avoid expressing negativity. It's everywhere, and can often make you come across as angry or rude. People do it to try and project a cool, sarcastic attitude, but it’s very important to remember that being yourself and not trying to be something you are not DOES WORK. You don't need to try and act 'too cool for school' to impress your date; negativity is just off-putting. Also keep this advice in mind when you're interacting with waiters in a cafe or restaurant — if you're rude or hurtful to the staff, your date isn't going to be impressed, even if you're nice as pie to him or her.

Fourthly, keep the drinking in check, people! I have seen people get so drunk that they become rude and hurtful to their date. They can also get very cheesy and kind of cringe-inducing, and you really don’t want to be described as a cheesy date, do you? If you're going to use chat up lines, don’t have them so injected with sexual innuendo that you make your dates sink crawl right off their back.

So those are my tips to keep in mind when it comes to dating attitudes. If there's anything you think I've missed out on, feel free to elaborate in the comments section!