
We all have our own idea of what a Dream Date would be, and they all vary wildly. Do you go for tall, dark and handsome? Short, blonde and bubbly? Quiet, mysterious and clever? There are as many different concepts of the 'perfect person' as there are different people in the world, and that's a huge part of what makes dating incredibly fun and incredibly frustrating at the same time. While it's great to get out there and socialise, it can also start to feel a bit hopeless when you seem to keep attracting the wrong kind of person.
So this week, I want to talk about strategies for helping you attract your ideal match. Yes, really, there are plenty of things that you can do to give yourself a better chance with the man or woman of your dreams — there's no need to just sit around hoping they'll notice you any more!
First of all, I want you to think about the kind of person you'd define as your Dream Date. Would you like someone funny? Someone tall? Someone successful? Someone outgoing? Someone quiet? What characteristics make you want to date someone? If you had to describe your dream man or women in five sentences, what would they be?
Yes, that's all very well, you say. I want Johnny Depp's head on Eric Bana's body, with a doctor's brain thrown into the mix. Or Keira Knightley's head on Jessica Alba's body, and she should want to go for twenty-mile hikes every weekend. That bit was easy. But how do I get someone like that to notice me?
Well, did you ever hear the saying 'like attracts like'? It's very relevant here. Imagine the kind of person that your Dream Date would go for. What do you think they'd be like? Do you fit their match? If your answer is, 'Oh wow, yes!' then great, go for it. There's nothing stopping you! However, if your answer is, 'I don't know...' or even 'Absolutely, positively, certainly not!' then don't worry. Seriously. There are plenty of steps that you can take to make yourself more like your Dream Date's Dream Date! Take a look at my tips below:
1: Be Interesting.
Get yourself interested in things. When I say things, I mean reading, films, music, hobbies. The more activities you do the more interesting you become, and the more you'll have in common with other interesting people. If your Dream Date is clever, they'll probably prefer the company of clever people. If they're really into art, it makes sense that they'd like to spend time with someone who also does. There's no point in saying, "I want to date a novelist who paints portraits in their spare time," if you never read books and don't know a paintbrush from a toothbrush. People like to share interests, so by developing your own you'll become a lot more attractive to people who do the same.
2: Take Care of Your Appearance.
It is important to keep yourself presentable, and I've talked about the benefits of looking good for dates before. You don’t have to be catwalk model material, but it’s good to have as many advantages as you can when it comes to trying to impress your Dream Date. Looking after yourself involves just a few simple steps, which you probably hear every day — it's commonplace advice, but it's important to heed it. Eat well, sleep well, take light exercise, get some presentable clothes for your date night. See? Simple. You don’t have to have a complete makeover, but it is good to make sure you're looking after yourself properly. A healthy body is the sign of a healthy mind, after all.
3: Master Your Social Skills
Good communication is one of the greatest skills you can develop — it will help make a great first impression, let you flirt comfortably, and generally improve your relationships with other people. If you want to know my secrets for successful communication, take a look at How to Communicate With Appeal. The clearer you are when you are talking, the more attractive you'll be to others — it even improves your appearance, since your well-spoken voice will compliment any effort that you've put into your clothes and hair. Projecting this kind of image will generally make you more attractive to everybody, and will give you even more of a chance at snagging your dream date!
Meeting the right kind of person can be fun, simple and easy. It’s just a matter of keeping yourself open to the right kind of experiences and taking the opportunity to develop yourself personally. And if you're not seeing instant improvements in your love life, don't fret — change and growth are always good things, even outside of a dating context. Remember the definition of madness: 'doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.' So go do and something different for a change! You won't regret it.
Until next week!
Helena.
Hi Girls & Guys , I’m Helena, the Date Coach at AnotherFriend.com. If you’ve any dating or relationship questions, I’m the one to ask! Just email me at 








